- : Dear Mr Nice Guy

: Dear Mr Nice Guy

gutrebellyon:

Thank you for your input, but I am not a damsel in distress and I am aware of how amazing I am. I don’t need you to point it out to me. As a reflective, reasonable, analytical person I discovered this some time ago. Your statements about my “natural beauty” and desire for me to “understand what…

okay so how would you feel if i told you you were hideously ugly and even a swimming pool full of makeup wouldn’t make you look nice also ur too fat and ur stupid and you aren’t a very nice person (op lmao) and nobody likes u at all

would that make you feel better or should nobody ever speak to you ever again or try to be nice to you ever?

maybe you should move to Antarctica or something so you don’t have to deal with any unwanted human attention ever again. hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

If you read this post and all you got from it was that I don’t like any human attention ever, you read it wrong and it makes me question your comprehension of the English language.

And if you told me I was fat, ugly, whatever, again zero fucks would be given because other peoples opinions about my appearance don’t matter to me. It’s called self acceptance and it means I get to feel okay, all the time, regardless of what other people think I look like.

This piece is about some men who think they are being so sweet and nice by saying things like “You don’t need to wear make up! You look so much better without! You’re beautiful without it don’t you realise?” or “Why do you dress that way? You don’t need to wear a short skirt! I would date you if you just wore jeans and a t-shirt.” Well thanks but no thanks, bro. I don’t date people who tell me by way of a backhanded compliment what to do. If I wear make up then it’s a choice. It’s possible to wear make up and not have a messed up body image. If I wear a short skirt it’s not to attract a man, its because I enjoy fashion and make my own style choices. So basically I don’t like unsolicited opinions from jerks who want to fuck me but don’t have the balls to say it out right so instead attempt to play on some latent insecurities I might have.

I freely and graciously accept no strings compliments from men and women, but a compliment isn’t “You’re a natural beauty, why do you think you need make up?” A compliment is “You are beautiful.” or “You are so smart.” with no questions or strings attached. And by strings I mean that all those “compliments” are essentially clumsy attempts to make you fall in love with the guy, and so when it doesn’t work he gets quite hostile and takes them all back.

But yeah, I get that all you got was “I angry feminist! Hear me roar! RAAAAAARRR MEN CANT COMPLIMENT WOMEN EVARRRRRRR! I ONLY LIKE VAGINAS! MEN ARE USELESS AND ARE ALL BAD AND CANT DO ANYTHING RIGHT AND IM ON MY PERIOD! RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAR!”

It was an easy mistake to make.